Pleasure & Play:

A Kink Immersion Weekend

November 14th - 17th, 2025

Pleasure & Play: A Kink Immersion Weekend is more than a getaway. It is a three-night journey into intimacy, sensuality, connection, and curiosity in a beautiful Virginia estate. Hosted by Lesbifriends Travel and guided by kink educator Dame Sadie, this weekend brings Black queer women and nonbinary folks together to explore pleasure in a safe, playful, and affirming community. Every detail is designed to hold you as you step deeper into your own power while learning, celebrating, and possibly touching others who get it.

Photos are examples; actual room may vary slightly based on availability and accommodation alignment.

The Accommodations

Your home for the weekend is a private nine-bedroom retreat tucked into the rolling hills of Purcellville. Expect cozy lounge spaces, bubbling indoor & outdoor hot tubs, a game room, and sprawling outdoor grounds perfect for unwinding. Rooms and bathrooms will be shared, and if traveling alone we will pair you thoughtfully with another guest. This is not a sterile hotel stay. This is a community home for the weekend where comfort and care meet .

The Core of Our Experience

This weekend is about creating a container where consent, curiosity, and care come first. Workshops led by Dame Sadie will guide you through practices of boundary setting, attunement, and embodied play, while Lisa Gomes of Lesbifriends Travel ensures the weekend flows with warmth and intention. The goal is not just kink exploration but building a community that can hold and celebrate every part of you.

Saturday is the heart of the experience. Day guests will join for Pleasure & Parlay, a day event filled with rope demos, hands on practice, guided scenes, and supportive aftercare stations. Once our days guest depart, overnight guests will continue into the evening with a private play party where the estate transforms into a series of themed rooms designed for discovery, relaxation, and connection.

Day One

SOFT LANDINGS & WARM HELLOS

Arrive in Purcellville to check-in at 4p, settle into your room, and meet your fellow Lesbifriends. The evening begins with a welcome circle and a communal dinner that sets the tone for the weekend. You will be introduced to the guiding principles of consent and container building before the night eases into cuddle corners, optional rope demos, and cozy vibes by the hot tub with music.

Day Two

PLEASURE & PARLAY

The main event. After a grounding morning & breakfast, day guests arrive for a full slate of demos, guided practice, and community exploration.

Overnight guests will enjoy space for integration before gathering for dinner and then stepping into an unforgettable private play party. Expect music, themed spaces, aftercare lounges, and endless opportunities for sexual liberation.

Day Three

DEEPENING & INTEGRATION

This day invites reflection, embodiment, and personal exploration. Start with community breakfast and flow into a workshop designed to help you discover your kink language.

The afternoon is open for naps, hot tub soaks, nature walks, or optional one on one coaching. In the evening, gather for a chill jam session filled with poetry, music, and cozy connection. Quiet play spaces remain open for those who want to keep the energy alive.

Day Four

SWEET FAREWELLS

The weekend closes with light fare, a final reflection circle, and heartfelt goodbyes. You leave not just with memories but with tools, connections, and practices to bring back into your everyday life.

What’s Included✨

  • 4 Days/3 Nights at a private, 9-bedroom estate in Purcellville, VA

  • Daily Breakfast, 2 Dinners, and Snacks

  • Access to Saturday’s Pleasure & Play Day Event (w/ additional day guests)

  • Guided Kink and Intimacy Workshops Facilitated by Dame Sadie

  • Evening Play Party (for overnight guests only)

  • Access to Pleasure Forward Amenities like Cuddle Corners, Aftercare Spaces and Curated Music Playlists

  • Lesbifriends Swag Bag

  • On-ground team to ensure you have an amazing time!

What’s Not Included

  • Domestic Transportation

    Your transportation to and from Purcellville, VA is not included - but we can help you figure both out.

  • Travel Insurance

    Mandatory travel insurance is not included, however Basic coverage can be added on to your trip package or we can provide you with a quote for a different policy. Just add either when checking out.

  • Meals not Mentioned

    You are responsible for lunches and at least 1 dinner.

  • Optional Add-Ons

    • Rope kits

    • One-on-one guided demo sessions

    • Private coaching

    • Post-retreat virtual integration circle

  • Personal extras

    Additional activities not included in the itinerary

Pricing

Payment Plans Available - All Listed Prices Are Per Person

Please review the booking terms and conditions and frequently asked questions section before booking a package.

Day Event Only

$??

Access to Saturday’s event and shared meals from 11a - 4p.

Day guests will not be allowed to stay overnight.

Double Occupancy

$300

Deposit: $100

1-2 Queen or Twin beds with 2 people in shared room.

Single Occupancy

$??

Deposit: $100

Queen bed with 1 person in room.

Disclaimer

THIS TRIP ISN'T FOR EVERYONE

  IT IS FOR YOU IF: 

  • You are open-minded

  • You are curious, open hearted, and ready to explore kink in community

  • You are excited to connect with black queer women and nonbinary folks in a supportive space

  • You value consent, communication, and playful exploration

  • You are willing to both give and receive care in a shared container

 THIS TRIP IS NOT FOR YOU IF:  

  • You have a tendency to be negative or dramatic or are just plain depressing to be around

  • You resist stepping outside of your comfort zone or trying new things

  • You dislike shared accommodations or the idea of communal meals and activities

  • You are uncomfortable with the idea of consent-based play and intimacy exploration

  • You have very specific and particular travel preferences and tend to criticize everything around you

  • You can’t easily walk up stairs; if you find walking tough, then this trip isn’t suited to you

Important Information

Transportation

Check-in starts at 4pm on Friday, Nov. 14th.  We recommend you arrive as close to that time as possible on Thursday, so that you have time to get settled in, relax a bit, and will be around for the Welcome Circle.

Activity Level: Choose Your Pace

This is a trip that is the traveler’s pick. It allows the traveler to pick the activity level that they would like to do for that day. You can chill all day if you wish or stay engaged with all of the experiences available.

Important Notes

  • Accessibility: The home has multiple floors with stairs and may not be fully accessible for all mobility needs. Please contact us with any specific accessibility questions.

  • Register Early: This will be an intimate and high-touch weekend. Only 15 overnight spots are available. Space will go quickly.

  • Privacy: This is a confidential and contained experience. All attendees will be asked to sign a community agreement.

  • Safe Space: Safety, consent, and care are central to this weekend. Participation in any activity is always optional.

Travel Insurance

Missing a vacation is bad enough. Losing the money you paid for your vacation is even worse. Lesbifriends Travel requires you to have travel insurance for any trip you take with us. Your premium is related to your trip cost, so you don’t have to worry about being over-insured. We want to make your travel experience seamless, so sign up and we will get a travel insurance policy for you or we can provide you with a no obligation quote. If you opt not to go with our preferred travel insurance provider, you are required to get your own and proof of insurance may be requested before the trip.

Payments and Payment Plans

All payments to Lesbifriends Travel are non-refundable and non-transferable. This is because Lesbifriends Travel has contractual agreements with hotels, airlines, and other vendors that will not allow us to obtain any refunds. This way we can keep our package prices low and allow you to make monthly payments on your vacation.

When you sign up for a trip, you are automatically signed up for monthly payments and your confirmation email will clearly note your due dates and amount. We suggest you put this payment plan on your personal calendar.

A $75 late fee will be applied to all payments made after the 3-day grace period. Your trip is subject to cancellation without a refund after two missed payments.

  • If you are traveling alone and do not want to spend the extra money for a single occupancy room, we are happy to match you with a like-minded traveler to be your roommate on this trip. We understand that the extra money spent in getting your own room takes away from the money available for you to splurge while on vacation.

    For that reason, we extend each traveler the option of having us pair you with a suitable roommate for no additional cost. Roommates are paired based on room selection and a potential roommate questionnaire if there are several solo travelers. Before the trip, you will be introduced to your roommate, with plenty of time for you to get to know each other before we reach our destination.

  • Do you know someone who is interested in joining our trip but has not been to a Lesbifriend event or trip? Here is your chance to save a little money while bringing them on a trip of a lifetime!

    For every traveler that you refer to our trip, you will receive up to a $150 ($25 cash, $50 current trip credit, or $75 future domestic trip credit, or $150 future international trip credit) referral bonus once that person pays in full. There is no limit to the number of people you can refer; the only condition is that anyone you refer has not already signed up with Lesbifriends.

    Be sure to tell your friend to enter your name on the registration form under “Who Referred You.”