What is Pleasure & Parlay?
This is not your average night out, it’s an immersive experience in pleasure, rope play, and embodied exploration, intentionally crafted for Black, queer women. From a mini pre-course to a community pre-meet, and an intimate night of demos, music, and hands-on practice, Pleasure & Parlay invites you to connect to your body, your breath, and your boldness.
Whether you’re coming solo, partnered, or somewhere in between, come ready to play, learn, and explore what sensuality looks like on your terms.
What’s Included
Early Bird Admission: $100 (available until August 8th)
General Admission: $125
(Ticket sales will close on August 29th or when sold out—whichever comes first.)
Optional Rope Add-On: $30
Need your own rope? Add a 1-hank kit at checkout to use and take home.Pre-Event Mini Course
Learn the foundations of erotic rope, breathwork, and consent culture. The virtual course will be available to registered attendees from August 13th to October 13th. Once registered, attendees will receive a link to create an account and access both the mini course and the virtual chat space.Virtual Pre-Meet Up
This virtual meet & greet will be held on Wednesday, September 4th at 8pm EST. This session is about an hour long and intended to build rapport ahead of the in-person event. Connect with fellow attendees, meet your hosts, and ask questions in a supportive virtual space.Exploratorium Night
Enjoy a glass of wine on arrival, curated demos, live music, finger foods, and time to explore rope play in a guided, welcoming environment.
Meet Your Host: Dame Sadie
Dame Sadie (she/they) brings two decades of experience in the erotic arts to our evening, from intimate rope work to breath-based somatics, rituals, and pleasure-led healing practices. As a Black, polyamorous, queer artist, educator, and community healer, they’ve earned their playful title: “The Pleasure Missionary.” With certifications in mindfulness, meditation, Reiki, and healing arts, Dame Sadie creates sacred, body-centered experiences that prioritize consent, pleasure, and self-awareness.
Having guided countless workshops, rituals, and embodied explorations, Dame’s deep yet approachable leadership ensures Pleasure & Parlay feels equal parts safety, ceremony, and spirited celebration. Imagine learning from someone who knows how to create both grounding and electric shifts with warmth, intention, and lots of heart.
Meet Neffie Khaos: Co-Founder of The Knotty House
Neffie (she/her/Goddess) is a shibari educator, sensually sadistic Pro-Dom who centers pleasure. She works on changing the narrative around plus size bodies being tied. She shows that with rope, there are many sides; sensual, meditative, healing, sadistic, grounding, even aftercare.
IG: @neffie.khaos and @theknottyhouse4
What You’ll Learn
✨ Rope Basics: Safety, vocabulary, and easy-to-learn ties
✨ Breathwork for Sensuality & Regulation
✨ Sensory Play: Learn how to give and receive pleasure with intention
✨ Solo & Partner Exploration Confidence
✨ A deeper connection with your body and your boundaries
What to Expect
This is a no-pressure, no-creep zone. Think soft lighting, curated playlists, rope demonstrations, and delicious finger foods, all set in a warm, affirming space designed with you in mind.
🖤 Dress Code: Kinky, playful, comfy (Think: lacy lingerie, silky robes, mesh sets, leather harnesses, body chains, or your favorite comfy-chic lounge. Wear whatever makes you feel sexy and at ease.)
🖤 Glass of wine on arrival (no other alcohol will be served)
🖤 No photos allowed
🖤 If it’s not yours, don’t touch it—unless you get an enthusiastic “YES”. Consent is everything!
Come curious. Leave empowered.
Whether you're stepping into something new or deepening your connection to pleasure, Pleasure & Parlay is your invitation to reclaim sensuality and agency. You’ll dive into an evening that feels intimate, respectful, and rich—where each rope demonstration, breathwork, and shared kinks are grounded in consent and community care.
This space is for solo wanderers, playful pairs. Come as you are, bring your curiosity, and trust that you’ll walk away with more confidence, connection, and maybe a new sense of self. After all, sparks fly best where people feel safe to shine.
Spots are limited. Secure yours below now!